You might be wondering why you would need to make resolutions on relationships or even review this part of your life but you would be surprised at the impact relationships have on our personal happiness, success and also mental and physical health.

The ‘Relationship Resolution Clinic’ reviews both the platonic and romantic relationships in our lives and relationships as a whole.  

Abraham Lincoln once said, “The better part of one’s life consists of friendships.” This statement is so profound as it appreciates the importance and impact relationships have on our lives. 

We have all heard the statement, ‘show me your friends and I will tell you who you are’.  Relationships whether good or bad have an influence on our outlook on life, attitude, actions and ultimately who we are.  Research shows that the most successful people in the world have a support group made up of like minded people, positive role models and other successful people. 

The relationships you keep can make life easier or more difficult for you and impact your happiness and accomplishments.  Imagine you had a bad day at work or for whatever reason, wouldn’t it be nice to find solace in a friend or your partner, who could make you feel better about your day or even yourself? Now imagine you had no real friend to turn to for comfort or the person you turned to, does not care  about you or how you feel?  Or what if you had a business idea and you turned to a friend for advice and rather than encouraging you, they leave you feeling demoralised and hopeless?  It is therefore fair to say that the relationships we keep play a major role in our lives and can impact us either positively or negatively. 

In an interview, Oprah Winfrey was asked what made her successful and she answered, ‘everybody needs somebody in their life who can say, “Yes, you can do it!”’  As such, it is extremely important to surround yourself with positive and supportive relationships, people who want the best for you and can inspire you to be your best.    

Now think about the relationships you have in your life and honestly ask yourself – who encourages you to be a better person, who has your best interests at heart, who inspires you.  This exercise can help you identify whether or not you have a strong support network.  Also ask yourself – are you a good friend, are you supportive or caring and are you there for those who need you?  This additional exercise enables you recognize areas you need to improve on so that you can also provide a good support network for others.

By answering these questions and conducting this exercise, you discover the healthy relationships in your life, your support network and personal areas for development.  This question and answer session, also allows you to assess the relationships you need to be cautious with or even cut.  For instance if a friend or partner is emotionally, verbally or physically abusive, this is obviously an unhealthy relationship which can be damaging to both your mental and physical health and therefore needs to be cut.  If on the other hand, a friend or partner is supportive, loving or encourages you, then you need to nurture this relationship and contribute to it.

Closing notes – make a note of the changes you would like to see in the relationships you keep.  For example, you could decide to get closer to someone at work you look up and even tell them about this so that they can support your growth.  For your personal development, you could decide to become a more reliable friend or partner by keeping to your word and by being more supportive.  Most importantly you need to ensure not just for 2012 but going forward in your life that you are surrounded by healthy relationships and a strong support network.